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SWEET DREAMS

Sweet dreams are all I have of you, they're all you left behind.

Those cherished lovely memories, never again to find.

On earth you were so wonderful, no child could I compare

To all the love you gave to me, you were so meek, so rare.

Sweet dreams they keep me going through the long and lonely night,

How I wish that I could hug you here and squeeze you oh so tight.

If I could walk to Heaven dear, to see you every day,

Just know I'd never want to leave, I know I'd long to stay.

We parted here on earth my child, but God's will shall be done,

Then dreams will be reality for once more we'll be one.

I love you for eternity, forever and some more,

Because you were the sweetest child, the kindest and most pure.

If Heaven's full of Angels, like you were here on earth,

I thank the Lord for lending you, for giving me your birth,

One day my child I'll see you there, so please look out for me,

You'll see my smile so wide before you see my spirit free.

God takes the sweetest Angels first, this we know is true,

For He came here and looked around, my darling, He chose you!

♥♥ ♥♥ ♥♥

 

What a Grieving
Mother Really Thinks

Hello old friend,
Oh yes you know
I lost my child a while ago.

No, no please don't look away
And change the subject, It's OK.
You see at first I couldn't feel,
It took so long, but now it's real.

I hurt so much inside you see
I need to talk, come sit with me
You see, I was numb for so very long,
And people said, "My, She is so strong."

They did not know I couldn't feel,
My broken heart made all unreal.
But then one day, as I awoke
I clutched my chest began to choke,

Such a scream, such a wail,
Broke from me.. My child! My child!
The horror of reality.
But everyones moved on, you see,
everyone except for me.

Now, when I need friends most of all,
Between us there now stands a wall.
My pain is more than they can bear,
When I mention my child, I see their blank stare.

"But I thought you were over it,"
Their eyes seem to say,
No, no, I can't listen to this, not today.
So I smile and pretend, and say,
"Oh, I'm OK"
.
But inside I am crying, as I turn away.
And so my old friend, I shall paint on a smile,
As I have from the start,
You never knowing all the while,
All I've just said to you in my heart.

by Kelly Cummings

Bereaved Parents Wish List

I wish my child hadn't died. I wish I had him
back!!
I wish you wouldn't be afraid to speak my child's name. My child lived and was very important to me. I need to hear that he was important to you also.
If I cry and get emotional when you talk about my child, I wish you knew that it isn't because you have hurt me. My child's death is the cause of my tears. You have talked about my child and you have allowed me to share my grief. I thank you for both.
Being a bereaved parent is not contagious, so I wish you wouldn't shy away from me. I need you now more than ever.
I need diversions, so I do want to hear about you, but I also want you to hear about me. I might be sad and I might cry, but I wish you would let me talk about my child; my favorite topic of the day.
I know that you think of and pray for me often. I also know that my child's death pains you too. I wish you would let me know these things through a phone call, a card or note, or a real big hug.
I wish you wouldn't expect my grief to be over. These first years
are traumatic for me, but I wish you could understand that my grief will never be over. I will suffer the death of my child until the day I die.
I am working hard in my recovery, but I wish you could understand that I will never fully recover. I will always miss my child and I will always grieve that they are gone.
I wish you wouldn't expect me "not to think about it" or "be happy". Neither will happen for a very long time, so don't frustrate yourself.
I don't want to have a "Pity party", but I do wish you would let me grieve. I must hurt before I can heal.
I wish you understood how my life has shattered. I know it is miserable for you to be around me when I'm feeling miserable. Please be as patient with me as I am with you.
When I say, "I'm doing okay", I wish you could understand that I don't "feel" okay and that I struggle daily.
I wish you knew that all of the grief reactions I'm having are very normal. Depression, anger, hopelessness and overwhelming sadness are all to be expected. So please excuse me when I'm quiet and withdrawn or irritable and cranky.
Your advice to "take it one day at a time" is excellent advice.
However, a day is too much and too fast for me right now. I wish you could understand that I'm doing good to handle an hour at a time.
Please excuse me if I seem rude, certainly not my intent. Sometimes the world around me goes too fast and I need to get off. When I walk away, I wish you would let me find a quiet place to spend time alone.
I wish you understood that grief changes people. When my child died, a big part of me died with him. I am not the same person I was before my child died and I will never be that person again.
I wish very much that you could understand ~ understand my loss and my grief.
But....
I pray daily that you will never understand

ALL MY LOVE XOXO

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Remembering

Go ahead and mention my loved one,
The one that died, you know.
Don't worry about hurting me further.
The depth of my pain doesn't show.

Don't worry about making me cry
I'm already crying inside.
Help me to heal by releasing
The tears that I try to hide.

I'm hurt when you just keep silent,
Pretending they didn't exist,
I'd rather you mention my loved one
Knowing that they have been missed.

You asked me how I was doing
I say "pretty good" or "fine"
But healing is something ongoing
I feel it will take a lifetime.

~Elizabeth Dent

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You and Me
by: Kathryn O.

Who will I turn to now that your gone?
Who will comfort me when my day has been long?
Without you here, how will I get by?
All I can do is cry and cry

My friends are afraid of what I might do
They know I'd do anything to be with you
While in my mind that seems the best choice
I pray for guidance, then I hear your voice

We will be together at some point in time
For the love that we share is a love that binds
It will stand the test of the now and forever
To start again on new endeavors

Dry your tears, I hate to see you cry
Be brave and strong and you'll get by
You will get through this, just wait and see
Before you know it, it will again be you and me

ALL MY LOVE XOXO

This day will be a celebration
of the short time you were here.
You will always be remembered
with great love and many tears.
But to only feel pain and sorrow
would not be fair to you.
Your life meant so much more to us,
more than words could say.
You were here so briefly,
I wonder if you knew
all the ways you’ve touched
our world and our hearts
and everyone who knew you
since the day God called you home.
Now my child, you’re an angel
with your heavenly Father above,
we see not only what we’ve lost
but our capacity of love.
There will always be a big void
in our life and a hole in our
hearts that will never heal.
Our souls will grieve forever.
Will we forget or stop loving you?
No! Not now…not ever.
As this day is upon us,
oh, how our hearts still hurt.
But even as I mourn your death,
we will always celebrate your birth.
It was the happiest day of our lives.